After coming back from a break, I’ve taken a look at what I have so far and I feel like I’ve gotten off on the wrong foot. My original plan was to write about housing and housekeeping when you’re taking care of one instead of a crowd. As I’ve started writing about it, though, I found out how much I have to learn about all of that.
This is good.
Now I have this blog to motivate me to learn as much as I can about it. If I get any readers, you’ll ask questions that will challenge my assumptions and see new angles. Encouragement would be nice, but even trolls could be helpful. And if I write for the proverbial crickets, I still get the benefit of being forced to articulate my thoughts.
For today, I have a recommended show to binge watch.
I thoroughly enjoyed a 1-season run of Buy Herself on Netflix, which is a show about single women purchasing homes. Their concerns, like mine, are not the same as many buyers. I have to ask questions like, who is going to take care of the yard in this suburban house? Am I looking for “househack”? What about security? And what are my motivations for buying? To prove you’re “grown up” or as an investment property or for my own enjoyment?
The most helpful episode in my book was #3 in which the woman, a single mom, hasn’t actually crunched her numbers before starting her home search.
Woman: “I’m trying to stay under $1,400 a month”
Realtor: “How did you come up with that number?”
Realtor: “I’m not going to sell you a place if you don’t know how much money you have every month. If you’re $50 short every month that’s not acceptable. I want you to factor in daycare, groceries, commute, clothing, gifts, holidays, and savings. And then you tell me how much you can afford to spend every month”
Now, if that doesn’t seem believable, I will tell you I have seen enough people who are $45 away from not being about to buy themselves groceries that there must be people who don’t know what’s affordable to them, even when given a monthly payment figure. And then to say from that number what house price you can afford is something else.
My biggest surprise about the whole show was that it has helped me with decision-making in all areas of my life by helping me to weigh pros and cons in light of what is most important to me. Being a one-person household means making a whole lot of decision by yourself, and, staged or not, I feel like Buy Herself gets that.